
Don’t Wait: Choose a Guardian for Your Children Today

We get it—this isn’t an easy subject. Imagining someone else raising your children feels unimaginable. It’s emotional, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s the last thing you want to picture. But as a parent, it’s a conversation you must have—and a decision you need to make. Because if you don’t name a guardian and the unthinkable happens, you won’t be the one deciding who steps in. A judge will.
And that judge? They won’t know you. They won’t know your children. And they won’t know the values, routines, or love that define your family. They’ll do their best, of course, but that choice could be a complete stranger—or even someone you wouldn’t have wanted anywhere near your kids.
The truth is, no one can replace you. But someone can carry out your wishes and provide stability, love, and guidance to your children. Your job is to choose that person now—while you can.
Choosing the Right Guardian
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to choosing a guardian. Every family is unique, and the “right” choice for you may not be obvious at first. That’s why we help parents walk through the decision carefully—thinking not only about who can take care of your kids, but who should.
Here are some of the factors worth considering:
- Relationship and Bond: Does your child already know and feel comfortable with this person?
- Parenting Style: Are their values, beliefs, and approach to discipline similar to yours?
- Location: Would your child need to move away from their school, friends, and community?
- Health and Age: Are they physically and emotionally able to care for your child long-term?
- Lifestyle and Availability: Are they raising children of their own? Do they have the time and energy to take this on?
It’s also wise to name at least one backup guardian in case your first choice becomes unable or unwilling to serve.
And here’s a tip: have the conversation before you put anything in writing. Don’t surprise someone with this responsibility—make sure they’re open to it and understand what’s involved.
What About Money?
Raising a child is expensive—but it shouldn’t be your chosen guardian’s burden. Ideally, you’ll leave enough financial support to cover the costs of education, healthcare, housing, and general needs. Life insurance, savings, and trusts are often used to provide for your child’s future.
But here’s where it gets tricky: the person you trust to raise your child may not be the same person you trust to manage their money. And that’s okay.
Many parents choose to name:
- A guardian to care for the child day-to-day, and
- A trustee to manage the financial side of things—paying for the child’s expenses and ensuring that funds are used appropriately.
Of course, some families choose to keep those roles combined for simplicity. But it’s important to weigh the pros and cons. The right setup is the one that gives you peace of mind.
Also, this isn’t a one-and-done decision. Your children will grow, relationships may change, and someone who isn’t the right fit now might become a great option later on.
The key is to make a decision today. Once you’ve named a guardian, it’s easy to update your plan down the road if things shift. But until you have that legal paperwork in place, the risk remains.
Let’s Talk It Through
You don’t have to figure this out alone—and you don’t have to leave your children’s future up to chance. By creating a legally sound estate plan, you can:
- Name a trusted guardian who will care for your children if something happens to you,
- Establish financial provisions to ensure your children are provided for without burdening others,
- Appoint a trustee to manage assets wisely and in line with your wishes, and
- Avoid court battles and confusion during what would already be a difficult time for your family.
At our firm, we make this process straightforward and personalized. We’ll guide you through each decision—carefully, compassionately, and without overwhelming legal jargon—so you can feel confident knowing your children are protected.
This is one of those steps that most people put off, but wish they had taken care of earlier. Don’t let uncertainty or discomfort stop you. Estate planning gives you the power to protect your children with clarity and love—no matter what the future brings.
Give us a call today to schedule your appointment. We’ll help you take care of this now, so you can get back to focusing on what matters most—being present with your family.